When something funny happens, we want to share it with someone we love. When something painful happens, we want to share that, too. It’s important that the people we choose to share our inner lives with is someone who will appreciate that gift. When we share our authentic self and story with someone who doesn’t value it, it can be damaging. If you have a person in your life who is consistently toxic, negative, shaming or dismissive with what you bring to them, don’t go to them looking for validation, love, kindness, and sympathy. That would be like going to a hardware store for milk! That person is not the right source. Who else can you turn to? Or what way can you give yourself compassion and self-love?