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We only have a limited amount of hours and energy each day. Where do you spend your energy and time? Do you think about other people? What they did or did not do? What they might or might not do? How they hurt or disappointed you or others? All of this is time and energy […]

Do you avoid getting out of bed in the morning? Cleaning your house? Taking a walk? Studying for a test? All of these activities are examples of self-care that provide lasting, long term results. Sleeping in, staying home and watching tv provides short term relief, however, if you are looking for a healthy, expansive life […]

Often we resist doing the very thing that will change our lives for the better. When you are faced with extreme resistance, ask yourself, “what would I gain if I did this and everything worked out?” Whether starting a new exercise program or setting a kind but firm boundary with family members – when we […]

Feelings that accompany black and white thinking such as “I can’t do this” or “It will never work”, are just feelings not facts. Next time you feel overwhelmed, anxious, or angry, ask yourself “Is this a feeling? Or a fact?” Remembering that “Feelings aren’t facts” can help us make new choices, respond appropriately, and be […]

If someone doesn’t respect a boundary we have set, it’s up to us to make sure it doesn’t happen again. Maintaining our boundary is our job, not theirs. Yelling, freaking out, or explaining over and over to others why we need our boundary respected isn’t actually maintaining our boundary. For example: if someone keeps calling […]

Yesterday, a helicopter crashed in Calabasas killing nine people, including Kobe Bryant and his daughter, Gianna Bryant. Such accidents are not only tragic for the victims, but also for their friends and family. Accepting the loss of a loved one is never easy. But when death happens suddenly, as in a fatal accident to someone […]

Dramatic decisions or extreme actions change our lives, however, the biggest rewards are usually the result of very small actions done consistently over a period of time. What small actions can you do every day that lead you in the direction you wish to do?

People learn lessons in their own way and timing. When you need someone to learn their lessons in your timing, you are trying to assert dominance and rob others of their free will. No one tries to get a baby to run a marathon. Let people discover things and grow when it’s right for them. […]