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Everyone goes through periods where they feel bad. When people die, we grieve. When we are rejected or things don’t go our way, we can feel sad. Sometimes when we are ill we can also feel depressed. They are the right and natural feelings for those events. Labeling certain feelings as “bad” really means that […]

Do you know what perseverating means? It’s a term that describes when a person repeats an action, even if that action is no longer necessary. One of the more common ways in which a person perseverates is when they keep thinking about and returning to a topic that is inherently distressing. If you are perseverating […]

When something funny happens, we want to share it with someone we love. When something painful happens, we want to share that, too. It’s important that the people we choose to share our inner lives with is someone who will appreciate that gift. When we share our authentic self and story with someone who doesn’t […]

When we invest our time and energy into a relationship, we often want that investment to pay dividends. Unfortunately, some relationships never give back what you put into them. If you think back, the red flags and the broken, damaged, or one-way behaviors were there from the beginning. Just as a business that continually loses […]

Facing a confusing or complicated situation can feel debilitating. Often the way out is to simply start gathering facts. If you are wondering if your partner has a drinking problem – go to Alanon and learn the facts about addiction. Anxious that you might have a serious disease? Tell your doctor and get the prescribed […]

As children, we had to depend on others to feed us, wash us, and dress us. Growing up, we depended on parents, teachers, and other members of the community to teach and guide us. So why is it many adults struggle to find the right about of dependency with their partners? Codependency is enmeshment, where […]

Have you ever found yourself losing your cool over something trivial? The word HALT can be a good way to check in with yourself to see what is going on. Ask yourself: Am I Hungry? Angry? Lonely? Tired? Those are basic needs that must be addressed before we can fully participate in our lives. Halt […]

Everyone is unique. That’s what makes life so interesting and fun! When someone is terminally unique, life is decidedly less so. Terminal uniqueness is when someone feels like no one else could ever understand what they are going through. “It” is only happening to them. No one else has ever been through this. Terminal uniqueness […]

Have you ever cared so much that it hurt? To care about someone can quickly turn into caringfor someone. Sometimes this happens without us knowing it. Without them asking for it. Or maybe they did ask for it – and you didn’t have the overflow or mental, emotional, or material resources to give and you did […]