Do you spend your time with people because you have to? Because you need to? Or do you spend time because its good for you and brings you joy? When you participate in relationships and activities because of shame, guilt, or neediness you are strengthening the false belief that you are not worthy or capable of thriving as an adult. Choose to put your health and your self first. From there you can choose to engage in relationships and activities that nourish your soul and your goals.