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Have you ever felt overwhelming emotion over something that wasn’t a big deal?  For example, if raising your hand and not getting called on inspires feelings of rage, then your reaction is an indicator that you are being triggered about something old, from your past. If children are not safe to express their feelings during […]

When we stew about what someone did to us or didn’t do for us, we are practicing the muscles of living in the past and being angry about things we are powerless over. Is that what you want to develop and strengthen? Giving into habitual resentment is like watering weeds. Behind every resentment is an […]

…to keep others warm. Helping others can be rewarded and fulfilling. It can be a way we express love. And it can help us feel close to people and build bonds with others. When we give from our reserves rather than our overflow, we damage our relationship with ourselves. If someone is cold, don’t set […]

Some people feel like they have to give a reason when we say no to a request. Perhaps they feel guilty for making the choice that is right for them. Or perhaps they fear their choice will be met with hostility or a negative consequence. When you offer reasons to manipulate someone else’s reaction or […]

It has often been said that depression is when someone is living in the past and anxiety is when someone is living in the future. Being human means experiencing new things all the time and making choices and decisions that have far-reaching effects. Most people are just doing there best with what they know at […]

There are some problems in life that we just can’t Google. For example, when an adult is addicted to drugs, living on the streets and refusing to get help we often want to “figure something out” in order to help them and regain some semblance of order and control in our own life. Unfortunately, there […]

Life is full of choices, and each one has a consequence. For example, If you walk barefoot on wood, you might get a splinter. If you drink too much. You might get a hangover. Sometimes even not doing something has a consequence. If you don’t show up for a friend, don’t be surprised when they […]

Personal development can often lead to tangible results: new friendships, love relationships, careers, better health. The road to those results, however, is inside of us. Therapy, books, podcasts, and even prayer can help inspire us and guide us towards ourselves. The choice to actually recognize that real change is an inside job, however, is entirely […]

Do you spend your time with people because you have to? Because you need to? Or do you spend time because its good for you and brings you joy? When you participate in relationships and activities because of shame, guilt, or neediness you are strengthening the false belief that you are not worthy or capable […]