People tell who they are right away. Sometimes they tell you in words. Or they might show you in behaviors. Sometimes what a person doesn’t do also reveals a lot about someone’s character, empathy, and priorities.
Making excuses for what people say, do, or don’t do is unhealthy and potentially harmful. When you tell yourself things like, “that’s not who they really are” and “they were stressed” or “they forgot” you are doing a disservice to yourself and the other person.
Pay attention to what other people communicate about themselves. Then make wise choices about how you invest your time and energy. Follow your gut about their signals.
When we look back at relationships, we can see that it had all been communicated to you from the beginning.