So many people consider this a wonderful skill. Matching someone else’s energy is a great way to quickly bond with someone and put them at ease. But if you continually do this, it’s most likely a trauma response. Did you grow up always having to put your true self aside to put others at ease, or to keep yourself from being emotionally or physically harmed? The next time you find yourself matching someone’s energy to put them at ease, consider that the message you are telling yourself is I don’t deserve to be who I really am in this situation. Then remind yourself that the most powerful and loving version of yourself is when you are in your authenticity.